To be honest, I have done this wrong more than I have done it correctly. The problem is that you don’t know what the albums you choose are supposed to sound like… or most of us do not.
The worst I ever did was choose my current favorite albums. While Rebecca Pidgon’s Spanish Harlem is great…the electronic i picked was not. So, a selection of symphony, acoustic jazz, rock, world, vocals… etc. is better. But it is still not a good empirical ruler.
I don’t think there is a really good short term answer. But there is a long term one. Listen to acoustic music in live venue… over and over and over. Much in the same setting so you can completely understand the sound. Different instruments, mass effect, study the acoustics, reflections… reverberations.. nuances. Through long exposure you and your subconscious learn the subtleties of live music. Walk up to someone playing a piano, move to different positions, cymbals, drums, all forms. Listen to nuances, wall reflections.
I think I got serious about this about 25 years ago… then I got season tickets to the symphony ten years ago… I really started learning. Using a broad variety of music to compare my own system and audition equipment was a small step in the right direction, but live acoustic jazz and the symphony completely changed my auditioning and selection of gear. For the better… my systems went from good reference type systems where I could hear the musician move his feet and tell the microphone technique and flaws, to one that swings and completely wraps me into the musical moment and it can be hard to sit still it is so moving. It is way too easy to build a system based on details and slam and completely lose the music. A long term effort, worth every bit of it.