@danvignau -- "Who wants to go to a female's house to listen to girley music?"
Seriously? Girly music? What IS that anyway?
I guarantee you if you came to my "female" house you could listen to anything from classical to classic rock, some jazz, some blues, standards ... the gamut.
As for people suggesting that the "music is the thing, not the gear" ... yes, but the gear is the way to get to the music, at least for us! For me, the quality of the sound makes a huge difference. For my male partner, it does not. He listens on my discards (very OLD discards!) and is completely happy. He doesn't worry about cables, line conditioners, or any of that stuff (let alone components). He's much more gadget-oriented than I am (he's an engineer) but has no particular interest in sound (and claims not to hear differences).
Really, there are probably few differences between male and female audiophiles -- we're all in it because the sound makes a huge difference. Perhaps male audiophiles are, generally speaking, more gadget-loving than females. The "barriers to entry" are greater for women, though, as I mentioned. Women are wary of "boy's clubs" where they may not be welcome. (A great example of that is the toxic male gamer environment. Fortunately, the audiophile world is not nearly as toxic. But the wariness is still there.)