It is true that some can’t avoid spades. My suggestions in those cases are:
- Consider WBT with the spring loaded spades
- Avoid rhodium at all costs (it’s too hard and poor conductor)
- Stick to soft spades, pure copper cores with gold plating for instance
- Avoid brass, again, too hard.
- If your binding post is not captive (most are) use a lock nut
The softer the spade, the more it will squeeze under compression and provide for a tighter fit. The harder the material on the spade and binding post the less likely you are to have a long term reliable connection.