The way I see it, if you spend a bunch on cables it HAS to sound better right?
That's effectively claiming that everyone is subject to the fallacy of sunk costs. I think that's false.
Here's what I take as "true enough" on this issue:
Becoming an "experienced" audiophile requires
- accepting the idea that experiments do not have predetermined outcomes
- rejecting the idea that price is sufficient to make something sound good
- accepting the idea that experiments lead to mistakes from time to time and waste money
- accepting the idea that an experiment can yield no outcome or a worse outcome
- accepting the idea that one's system -- or one's system setup or power -- will be obstacles to an experiment capable of yielding audible results
So, yes -- one has to "try and see" but if one does not grasp the basic principles above, then one is actually just guessing. Perhaps that's the hardest pill to swallow around here -- that people claim to "try things out" to avoid wasting their money, but they do such a terrible job at controlling the variables that in order to save face (with themselves!) they find themselves pretending (to themselves and then to others, which just helps with the self delusion) that they hear something when they don't. An experienced audiophile would try to steer around that whole mess and just take their lumps.