Speakers for aging audiophiles - What's with today bass emphasis ?


I'd love to pick your brains on a issue and possibly a suggestion
My system has 2 sources, a Logitech transporter and Thorens 126 MKIII / SME / Supex.  Ampli recently changed to a Musical Fidelity M6si. My listening is 80% streaming and 20% vinyl. It's mostly classic and prog rock but also acoustic jazz and classic chamber music.
I have an issue with my current speakers setup: Dynaudio BM6 passive.
I have been using those for some months now and find that while they are satisfying in terms of scene, detail, resolution they are exceedingly strong in the bass (say 50 to 200 Hz) and not adequately balanced in the middle / treble, say from 1k Hz up. It seems as though the bass player stand in front with a big amplifier and everyone else is back in the stage.
I have changed the amplifier to the Musical Fidelity but while I am happy with that I did not see much change in respect to the issue I am describing.

I relate this issue to 2 causes:

1. Today's recordings emphasizes the bass unrealistically. Let me just give you an example. I recently bought Steve Wilson remix of Marillion "Misplaced Childhood". Great work. The mix is shining but compared to the old vinyl I have got you get this feeling of too much bass. Bass quality is great, well defined, solid, no complain but just too much of a good thing.

2. I am ageing, over 60 now. It is well know that as you age your sensitivity to the high frequencies falls down

Given those factors I'd like to change speakers to get something that:
- Is very open on the highs
- It's very analytical
- Does not over emphasize basses
- Bookshelf
- Ballpark cost 2 - 2.5 K

Can anyone make suggestions ? I was inclined to the Harbeths M30 but read several blogs where they say they do emphasize the bass. Maybe Dynaudio Special or Focus  ? How about Totem Sky ?

I don't mind spending a few more bucks to get what I want / need.

Thanks a lot everyone.

Mark.
marklings
All recordings differ in some way (statement of the obvious # 1,324,587), including the jazz stuff I listen to primarily. I turn my subs up or down a little if something is too bass heavy, and eschew DSP as it seem to suck the mojo out of recordings...also, I rarely get to use the word "eschew." Eschew on that! I worked (live sound mixing) with guitar genius Julian Lage a while back when he was touring with Scott Colley and Kenny Wolleson (he still does from time to time). Kenny preferred to go without mics on his drums, although the guitar and bass amps were miked...no problemo, great sounding amazing show (although I would have preferred using a kick drum mic and single large diaphragm overhead for a somewhat more balanced thing, but still...everything worked out). I was psyched to get the first CD of this trio and man...the first cut has LOUD bass and drums to the degree that was somewhat surprising to me based on the band's preferred live sound, but hey...it's GREAT stuff...so is the second CD and both remain in heavy rotation in my rig.
Cheaper silver cables.  That would unbalance a neutral audio system.  Open, extended highs, possibly more detailed mids and decrepit bass.
@fleschler ,
That is what I told OP on " 07-20-2018 2:29pm". I hope he gives it a shot.
I completely agree with another poster - Schiit LOKI EQ at $149 could be the answer. I am very happy with the unit. It will definitely allow you to adjust bass and mid bass and also bring up the mids and highs. Coupled of course with better speaker placement.
Sometimes when the bass from my ProAc Response 2.5 speakers is too much of a good thing I use the Loki to tame the bass, and it works very effectively. I mostly keep the mids flat but once in a while I raise the level a bit.
And if I don't really need it I just leave the unit off. 
You can buy it for a trial period. See what you think and maybe save yourself alot of time, hassle and money. You need an extra RCA interconnect and the unit can go between source and pre amp/amp or pre amp and amp. It's flexible and easy to use which for me was critical. I don't want to be fiddling around with equalizers all day long. Good luck.