Deep bass is not directional, and that has been shown by a lot of research. Yet, as some have argued here, it may sound as if these deep bass notes do indeed emanate from different speakers. The explanation is that the human brain uses the upper harmonics from the main speakers to locate the deep bass tones. You can do two simple tests. The first is to use only one subwoofer. Interestingly, and provided the sub has been integrated properly, even with one mono sub the deep bass will seem to come from the two main speakers. The second test is to use two stereo subs, but turn off the main speakers. You will not hear stereo, because the directional information from the main speakers is lost.
So you can happily connect two subs in mono and not lose anything. However, why not connect them in stereo anywany- is there a disadvantage to connecting two subs in stereo? Indeed there is, because two mono subs will produce the same signal, and will therefore be smoothed more completely by having two subs reproducing the same signal in different locations. This is why most experts and manufacturers suggest to connect two subs in mono.
Two subs are indeed better than one because they reduce room modes. Similarly four are even better, but this is a story of diminishing marginal returns.
In principle you have four ways to deal with room modes in a given room:
1 use dipole subs (Rythmik have a kit for a dipole sub). Dipoles excite far fewer room modes, so you address the problem at source. The disadvantages are that dipoles tend to be larger and require more power.
2 install bass traps. The down side is that they are big and ugly.
3 use multiple subs. Two are a big improvement, and four brings additional improvement.
4 use dsp room equalization like the Antimode 8033. Use this with one sub and the (big) improvement is quite localized. Use it with two and the improvement applies to a much larger area.
Ideally, you may want to use all four methods. In real life, a combination of two or three will already bring vast improvements. If you have a bit of space I would opt for two dipole subs combined with room eq. If the room is small and domestic tolerance limited, I would opt for two really small subs like the SVS SB1000 plus an Antimode. If you have space and the budget, by all means go for four.
Ideally subs should be the same model, but as long as they are not too different there should not be a problem. Two identical ones but with slightly different ages are not an issue at all. Speakers do indeed need to be broken in, but this does not normally take more than a few hours. With subs, you are unlikely to even notice (but wait for a few hours with the Antimode equalization).