What they recommend is what they recommend, not necessarily what you prefer. Your question:
before I get too worried about this prior to complete break in, is will the highs “soften” up once broke in.Is what I answered. If you want a softer top end more loading (using a resistor with a value lower than 47kOhms) will certainly accomplish that. The only way you will ever know is to try. Go and listen. You will see.