What do you say to your audiophile friends who say you just listen to your equipment more

Great sound enhances the appreciation of great music.  The gear is a means to an end, not an end in itself

I think I'm a music lover first and I think we all are looking for the magic sound!! The gear is the vessel to get us there!!

It's all in service to the music.
A handheld transistor radio (kids, look it up) can sound like a symphony if it's all you've got.
However, if you're a gear-head just to be a gear-head, who cares....own it and let the devil take the hindquarter (as my grandmother used to tell me)

I never talk about audio with non audiophiles.If they feel like listening to music I will put on something of their favored genre and watch their reaction. "Is that a different version than I hear on the radio?"" You must have surround sound! "" Who's playing a guitar in the other room!? "

if you're a gear-head just to be a gear-head, who cares....own it and let the devil take the hindquarter

+1 @rettrussell