I just wanted him to understand that with his Teac phono preamp he'd get the same result whether using RCA or XLR connectors.
That's guesswork on your part. You said you've never heard it. Why do you post speculative brouhaha about something you've never heard.
As I posted above actual users of the PE505 have found using their moving coil cartridges the xlr inputs results in significantly audible improvements over the same cartridge into the RCA inputs - contradicting your speculative post above.
The Audio Reference phono stage you refer to is quite different to what's being discussed here. Personally, I rate them 3rd class - crass, noisy and fragile compared to top units available today.