Why do dealers do this?


I'm an old fashioned guy. I like to make my audio purchases from a store and have a person I deal with, establish a relationship, and know that I have someone I can call when I need things. That is why I went into one of the larger stores in my area the other day, ready to audition a couple of things and buy my system. I had a very clear idea of what I wanted, asked to listen to a component with a view to buying it.
The dealer had a completely wrong approach from the start, and it is not a unique situation. I know many good folks in the business are on these forums, so I want to ask why this happens.
From the moment I set foot in the store he created an atmosphere of fairly intense pressure. He started with "you know, I only demo for buying customers". Throughout the visit, I felt continuously pressured to buy on the spot. I was forced to cut my visit short and I was unable to fully appreciate the component I was auditioning. I went from wanting to buy to wanting to run away - who feels comfortable buying something when pressured and rushed to do so right away? So I left the store unsure that I would want to do business with him. Had I had a good experience, and a knowledge that I can go to the store any time and have a good experience rather than have to find a way to "escape" the pressure I would not only have been happy to buy what I wanted, but would have been back often for other purchases. I cannot for the life of me understand where this comes from. One argument I heard is that store owners don't want to have people audition things and then buy online. Well, first off short of refusing to have a show room I don't see how you can make completely sure of that. So, wouldn't making the customer feel comfortable in your store be a better strategy? For me, I now want to shop online rather than go back. And here is one more twist. All online dealers for the product I was looking at make it clear they will not sell to anyone who has a dealer in their area. So I could not buy that online anyway!!
Can anyone enlighten me? Why can I not go to a local store and have that be a pleasant experience any more?
roc_doc
no wonder the world thinks americans are idiots

Tut Tut Mr. T.

I thought you were an avid listener to classical chamber music...

Now we have discovered a deeper side - the onion has layers!

Is it indeed possible that Mr T. has been listening to Green Day?
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Roc_Doc

My experience was just the opposite. I borrowed speakers from one dealer and brought them to another who sells another line of speakers. They helped me to bring them in, installed them with their best gear and played couple of hours switching speakers. At the end I told them I still like speakers I brought in more and they had no problem with it (very friendly). What happened to you was ridiculous and you're probably not the only customer that will never go back. I wonder how long they will stay in business. Don't loose hope - there are good dealers.

Many companies don't allow to sell their stuff over the phone or internet.
hi shadorne:

what is green day ? i do not listen to classical music very often.

hi bill: please enlighten me as to the third stooge. in addition please explain your reasoning for your selection. are you an authority on stooges ?