How do you get the "real" feel of music?


There is a certain "real" feeling that I get when I go to a live concert. It's more of "feeling" the music instead of "hearing" it. That feeling, I think, comes from percussion instruments. I'd like to get that feel in my home stereo but it's not there. In my home, snare drums don't pop, I don't feel the bass drum in my chest, and rim shots don't exist. Is there a way to get that presence in a small system?

I'm not rich, and I don't want to hear, "Scrap all your sorry equipment and get a Krell, Bryston and HSU..." so with that in mind, I've got a 12x16 room with:

Sony DVP-NS500 DVD
JVC HR-S5900 VCR
Harman Kardon AVR80 II as a pre-amp
Parasound HCA-1205 power amp

I have used
Definitive Technologies BP-6
Polk Audio R40, CS-175, and PSW-250
Bose Accoustimass 5
Bose R-41

Is there any hope?
beetle63
I also failed to see the beauty in Sasha's post... I thought
it was pretty lame. There are a lot of people here that
know whats going on and know alot about "cables",
"dynamics" and "system matching" tell us something we dont know Sasha? There might even be some rich and famous people around here?
What I sense running below the surface of sashas comments is a lifelong love of finding and trying to recreate a live experience of inner depth and beauty in the system synergy which is ultimately more satisfying than pure high endness of things.His comments if dissected sound weak,but I don't read them discreetly but rather on whole.As I write this Paul Galbraiths guitar transcriptions of the BACH violin sonatas/partitas is playing and says everything that sasha is getting at for me.Words really do fail to convey the state of grace that music engenders.
Ha! Bruce, I bought that disk and tried my best to love it for years, but finally gave up and traded it in - I just no longer wanted to listen to the machine-like playing, the intrusive breath noises, or the not-so-natural recorded sound of Galbraith's admittedly unusual instrument. Yes, the guy is an amazing virtuoso, and has put in a hell of a lot of work all the way around, but...I dunno, maybe I'd enjoy him more live, but I ultimately had to conclude that this recording was just never going to do it for me the way I wanted it to as a Bach-loving guitar player. Oh well :-)
Zaike, LOL, and sorry Bruce, brother in arms as far as old Sash is concerned, I am one mind with Z. as far as that Galbraith disk is concerned. I found it plainly musically uninvolving. We all hear and perceive differently, have different tastes and we all have EGOS. Lest those go entirely centerstage, I suggest we change the subject and get back to the music and Beatle63's concerns.......
Yes indeed,without our differences what kind of a sad blandness would we exist in.