How do you get the "real" feel of music?


There is a certain "real" feeling that I get when I go to a live concert. It's more of "feeling" the music instead of "hearing" it. That feeling, I think, comes from percussion instruments. I'd like to get that feel in my home stereo but it's not there. In my home, snare drums don't pop, I don't feel the bass drum in my chest, and rim shots don't exist. Is there a way to get that presence in a small system?

I'm not rich, and I don't want to hear, "Scrap all your sorry equipment and get a Krell, Bryston and HSU..." so with that in mind, I've got a 12x16 room with:

Sony DVP-NS500 DVD
JVC HR-S5900 VCR
Harman Kardon AVR80 II as a pre-amp
Parasound HCA-1205 power amp

I have used
Definitive Technologies BP-6
Polk Audio R40, CS-175, and PSW-250
Bose Accoustimass 5
Bose R-41

Is there any hope?
beetle63
Ha! Bruce, I bought that disk and tried my best to love it for years, but finally gave up and traded it in - I just no longer wanted to listen to the machine-like playing, the intrusive breath noises, or the not-so-natural recorded sound of Galbraith's admittedly unusual instrument. Yes, the guy is an amazing virtuoso, and has put in a hell of a lot of work all the way around, but...I dunno, maybe I'd enjoy him more live, but I ultimately had to conclude that this recording was just never going to do it for me the way I wanted it to as a Bach-loving guitar player. Oh well :-)
Zaike, LOL, and sorry Bruce, brother in arms as far as old Sash is concerned, I am one mind with Z. as far as that Galbraith disk is concerned. I found it plainly musically uninvolving. We all hear and perceive differently, have different tastes and we all have EGOS. Lest those go entirely centerstage, I suggest we change the subject and get back to the music and Beatle63's concerns.......
Yes indeed,without our differences what kind of a sad blandness would we exist in.
Beatle seems to have moved on...maybe the latter part of this thread didn't give him a "real" feel!
Got an email from Bruce today:

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TO: Zaikesman

Try to find some kind of therapy in the real world, the internet is a terrible substitute.

FROM: Brucegel (a member)
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Posting it here will serve as my only comment. Carry on...