Nice advice guys...I love it all. Its definitely tough, however, you must trust your ears...Naw, just kidding, if the woman is worth it...well, what can you do but compromise, right? And apparently she is worth it...so, keep the system in the small room, it'll be fine..especially if you can keep others out and have it all to yourself, that's more important than having it the large room and finding that you don't have the quality time to sit an listen...
good luck
good luck