Wife approval factor?

My wife participates in all of our audio choices, and encourages me--the obsessive one--to swap out/upgrade whatever I think is appropriate. This might seem to be a trivial issue until you consider that she is also the primary breadwinner between us. I paint and write full-time, but don't make much money from it. Yet she has no attachment to the money as hers, mine or even ours. We have no debt, and that's really her only concern.

I have not had a day job in four years. It doesn't matter if I don't work for a week, go skiing, or stay up all night writing. She only wants to know that I'm enjoying myself as much as she is. The first book I wrote was about making a spectacular marriage. Guess who inspired me? No, I'm not making this up. And no, she does not have a sister.

Now THIS is a great thread and Esoxhntr.....may the God's look down upon us and give us something like that. You just might have something there my man !!!! I love it...where's Slappy on this one !!!!

Anyone who actually puts their stereo over their marriage/significant relationship, has got to have some priorities out of line IMHO. People are as different as their fingerprints and we aren't always as lucky as others to share our greatest passions with our spouses/S.O. My wife was trained as a classical violinist and has her degree in performance. She no longer plays, but her brain is hard-wired to music - if there is something playing her mind will follow the music and it is difficult for her to concentrate on other things. Her mom and sister both play in a symphony orchestra and both have similar sensitivities to music playing. Her mom put it very well once: The worst thing for a musician is having to endure someone elses choice in music at a time you weren't wanting to listen to music at all. I had the same problem as Sean with my LaScalas which I sold because of my wife's objection to their size and 'presence' in our small house. I must admit, they did indeed command the room. I couldn't live without them long and ended up getting another pair which now reside happily in my studio. So I'd have to say that I'm one of the few whiners about WAF. It's really only because this is such a great place to whine as there are so many who will lend an empathetic ear...or sympathetic as far as most of those posting here are concerned (lucky bastards!). In reality, when it comes down to it, it is a non-issue with me as my priority is firmly with my marriage and I will work to make us both happy in that respect. Being a musician she does most certainly appreciate the sound of a good rig. Now if she only like all the same music I do and to listen as frequently as I do (at work I have music playing almost the entire time I'm there).

Oh, and Sogood51 - I let my wife put her paws on my bone any old time she wants! Keeps me happy!

Marco

She ignores my equipment (but I did get unsolicited comments on my Supratek Syrah & Gallo III's).

She demanded (& received) permission to pick the colors for my dedicated listening room (walls, rug, cloth covers for absorbers).

bigjoe

I thought you were talking about me for a second there. Then I realized Hell she won't even let me buy the Harley let alone ask for permission to ride it.

Chuck