hi, i trying to to get my first system together

Dangit, These are good suggestions from the group. As Zd originally stated, you need to go out and listen to understand what sounds best to you. This is especially true with a somewhat limited budget.
Some like very efficient speakers driven by SET Amps, and others like powerful amps driving more inefficient speakers. Some people want the best natural mid range, sacrificing lower and even at times upper frequency extension. While, others want full range and are willing to sacrifice some mid range. Of course, if you have all the funds you need, you can most likely get it all with either approach. But, that's not the case here. Then there are those who swear by Vinyl, and others who don't want to be bothered by it. And, those who need both. If you choose one media format over another, you can save a lot of money.
When we start off, we may tend to misjudge what's important, because we don't have the exposure we need to identify what we like for the money we've got.
Go out to an Audio Show, and find gear for your budget. Pick the system that puts the biggest smile on your face, and keeps your feet tapping. Don't listen to the salesperson, listen to your ears.

01-12-15: Mechans
It is simple. You will need a source- I would start with old technology a CD player

touche!

one lady back in the days of WA Mozart had a chance to meet him personally and ask question:
Lady: How to achieve the level of maestro as you sire?
WA: First you have to study basics of music, than as you advance, you'll have to enroll into higher musical education such as concervatory and take composition classes, than you have to start establishing yourself as musician and composer to the public.
Lady: But how did you first time make it when you were only 8??
WA: But I did not ask anyone on the first place!:-)

Get a discounted Naim Nait 5i (List $1,895) or Naim UnitiQute 2 (List $2,595), Linn Majik 140 speakers (List: $2,999?) and any iDevice loaded with tunes and be done with it for life!

Forget chasing rainbows / the holy grail and upgrading all the time! You'll go round and round and spend a lot of money for nothing. Focus on the music!!

Dangitt, I’ll answer this as if the information would be used by a relative, close friend, neighbor, or my brother-in-law. In other words … someone who I’d have to see and hear about my recommendations well into the future. That said, I’m looking at it like this: knowing what I now know, after a few years in the hobby and listening to a few systems, what would I get with a $5,000 budget?
• Odyssey Khartago Stereo Amp $1,000
• Doge 8 Tube Preamp, direct from China via Ebay ($1,475 which includes shipping). Seller has over 1,000 positive feedbacks (100%). Despite what others may say, I got a hybrid tube integrated this way years ago. It is still in good service in my bedroom system.
• EITHER Ascend Acoustics Sierra Tower OR Fritz Speaker Carbon 7’s (approx. $2,000) … depends on if you prefer floor standing (Sierra) or monitor (Fritz), you will not go wrong with either choice, since they both offer 30-day in home audition. I have owned another model of Ascend (given to my daughter for her new home) and have auditioned Fritz at a couple of audio shows.
• For your front-end there are a number of choices between $300-$400 used. Check out today’s offerings on Audiogon – from Rotel 1060 ($299.95) to Oppo Digital BDP-103 ($400), with some good choices in between like Meridian, Marantz and Arcam.
• For cabling start with Blue Jeans Cable throughout. I have auditioned and experimented with many brands and have pricier aftermarket stuff installed in my main rig. But at the entry level point, you cannot do much better in price/performance than Blue Jeans Cable.

This, I believe, represents a killer system for the money. Of course if you want to do some due diligence, just search the archives on this forum, or check Google reviews on anything that I have recommended. There is plenty of additional information available. That way, all you have to do is satisfy yourself on these specific recommendations.

One more option, if you don't want phono or plan on adding vinyl at any time ... pair the Odyssey amp with Odyssey Candela Tube preamp ($1,600 base).