There is no question that the pursuit of the best sound in the home can be be a distraction from the enjoyment of music with respect for it's innocence. Like all art there has to be an element of abandon and openmindedness to fully appreciate an artist's statement. The instant that we, consciously or not, start to think: "a little glary", "lumpy bass", "right channel not loud enough", we lose a little bit of that innocence in listening.
Our big music toys are a pretty cool thing, and they sure as hell can be a lot of fun in their own right, but in a way we should be trying to simplify, not overcomplicate the process of listening to music.
Happy listening.