Seems to me that your 6 premises to choose a tonearm are only your desire and that you want an user friendly tonearm, good.
I don’t see there that the tonearm has to be a good match for the cartridge or cartridges that own the customer that IMHO is critical for a tonearm choice.
What about those tonearms that are very well damped with out external oil damping? are they out to choice it? or the ones that has not fine tracking force with index mark, are out?
There are very good tonearms that are not so user friendly as you want but that are very good performers with wide good match for diferent cartridges, that has very good design and where that design were excecuted with really high quality.
Where do you leave the Kuzma 4P or the Reed P3? are automatic desqualified because are not 100% user friendly?
I can understand your post but I disagree with like chris ( btw, you can be always my guest, will be a pleasure to meet you here. ).
regards and enjoy the music,
R.