Did you measure the response?
This does sound like room modes. See the thread on room acoustics: https://forum.audiogon.com/discussions/room-acoustics-10
However, you may also have set the crossover frequency (much) too high. With my main speakers (Quad 2805) I have the crossover at 33 Hz and with my little Harbeth P3ESR mini monitors the optimum was 45 Hz.
Did you also try to omit your external crossover and just use the low pass on the subs (at a lower frequency?).
Maybe you need room equalization like the Antimode 8033. It worked a treat for me.
However, you may also have set the crossover frequency (much) too high. With my main speakers (Quad 2805) I have the crossover at 33 Hz and with my little Harbeth P3ESR mini monitors the optimum was 45 Hz.
Did you also try to omit your external crossover and just use the low pass on the subs (at a lower frequency?).
Maybe you need room equalization like the Antimode 8033. It worked a treat for me.