There are a lot of questions contained in your two paragraphs, and I cannot take the time to sort them all out, but I have owned a Koetsu Urushi for about 10 years. I have used it exclusively with a phono stage that has enough gain such that I do not need to use a SUT (Atma-sphere MP1), but I don't think anyone has enough data on all possible users of the Urushi to tell you what "most" audiophiles do, whether they use a SUT or not. Even if you get a bunch of responses on that subject, it still won't constitute a statistically valid sampling of Urushi users. Far as I know, one or both of your phono stages will have adequate gain to dispense with use of a SUT, so that is what I would try first.
With regard to your other questions, I try to mate cartridges with tonearms, not with turntables. So, I suggest you mate the Urushi with a high mass tonearm that is also well suited to either of your two (very fine) turntables. (I happen to own a DP80 and an SP10 Mk3.) The Urushi is low in compliance, which is why I suggest a high mass tonearm.
With regard to your other questions, I try to mate cartridges with tonearms, not with turntables. So, I suggest you mate the Urushi with a high mass tonearm that is also well suited to either of your two (very fine) turntables. (I happen to own a DP80 and an SP10 Mk3.) The Urushi is low in compliance, which is why I suggest a high mass tonearm.