please help! which turntable , michell gyro se ,, pro ject rpm 10 carbon ,, avid diva 2 ?

The Gyro can be upgraded over time with the ORBE platter and other amenities. It is a good table. I gave mine to my daughter as her first table and it continues to serve her well. Rega tonearm or the modded TechnoArm (rega modded by michell) is a reasonable first tone arm. Not a bad table to start with

Check out the Sota Jewel with Rega arm for under three grand. That will leave you another $2000 for a cartridge and phono preamp!
http://www.sotaturntables.com/newtables/sapphirejewel.htm

Agree with the SOTA Jewel suggestion by @yogiboy 
SOTA's are hitting their stride in that price range, and it's a good platform for you to build on in the future (swap-able arm boards for reasonable prices, etc). The suspension effectively isolates a lot of problems in your rack/floor, which would otherwise dictate extensive solutions for other TT designs. Choose a gorgeous wood that "does it" for you, and you'll cherish it for years. 

Another vote for SOTA here; one of the very best price-to-performance ratios out there.  You could even go to a Sapphire if you went for a refurbished unit (direct from the factory, BTW) or are patient and search the used market.  Superior performance, pretty and very reliable.

Good luck & happy listening!