As the years have rolled by I increasingly find myself asking whether by reading domestic audio magazines and the like, I was on the wrong road all along.
cd318, IMHO, you have not been on the wrong road all along. The philosophy behind audiophile gear is that you judge gear by how it sounds, not by how much abuse it can take or by how a few measurements can tell you that it sounds as good as everything else available.
Many tube amps have high distortion specs, yet many people love the sound of tubes. Audiophile gear is available for every taste, from the often cited "ruthlessly revealing" to the warm, euphonic, romantic sound. Which is right is up to each individual, and to me that’s a good thing.
Sure there’s snake oil and outrageously priced audiophile gear, but I’m glad that I have access to gear made by very highly talented and knowledgeable designers who measure AND listen to gear before they offer it for sale.
That it looks nice, or at least tries to, is a plus too. If you keep your gear in a closet, that doesn’t matter, but if it rests in plain view in the living room you share with your wife, appearance can be very important.
So, don’t fear the scorn of the pros or audiophiles. Find the gear that sounds right to you and enjoy it.