$100k spent on music and $20k on the equipment or the other way around or 50/50 ?

Took me a while, and still a rough estimate, but pretty sure music to equipment comes out even if by equipment you mean..... tone arm.

50 to 800 ratio for me. I have closer to 50 pieces of equipment and 800 albums of music. Is that good? The musics value is priceless and I tell the equipment 'you can be replaced'.

It truly doesn't matter.

View your audio equipment investment as having a kitchen you custom ordered.  Your wine and food are like the music media.

I'm sure you'd enjoy every bit of both, regardless of the investment ratio.

During last 6 months, I spent 18K$ on hardware.

But I also bought 400 red book CD at 800$.

Some of that are very good at performance and sound.

I may not need to spend any money on hardware and software for next 3 years.

I may buy more CD since it is easy to do bargain hunting on red book CD.

At $2 a piece cds are almost disposable, play them once and throw away what you don't like. Unless you buy too many and then throw away thousands of dollars.
With equipment one can literally spend millions, and some do.
I always have a tight yearly audiophile budget, but I can go over by 10% or so. I can also spend it all at once for five years ahead. This covers equipment. As for records and cds, I don't really need a budget, I usually buy 10 or so items per year for about $30 on average.