Since we have been in agreement all along on the first two bits, maybe its this last bit that is the stumbling block. I used to load MM cartridges to critical damping by simply ringing the cartridge/cable combination with a square wave and observing the resultant output and taming it with a loading resistor. MM cartridges have a lot more inductance so its easy for that inductance to ring. But attempts to do this with LOMC failed, simply because with any loading I could not detect anything other than a nice looking square output since the inductance is so low. So I am challenging the idea of critical damping of the mechanical aspect of the suspension, not because I don't think it can happen but more because I'd like to see the evidence.
I don't say that achieving critical damping is doable or even desirable from the sonic perspective.
I've also noticed that while I can cut a 35KHz groove on my Scully lathe, depending on loading you can't always play it back, depending also on the cartridge.
I think here lies the answer - "depending on the cartridge". I can imagine that for some cartridges, or better yet, some cartridge/tonearm combinations, the extra damping from a low R, combined with other factors may compromise the tracking. What I fail to see however is that this should be some universal law.
So now I am curious- at what frequencies did you make your measurements?
I did not do any measurements. I tune R_load by ear, usually preferring lower values, and have never experienced any HF mistracking.