I've had some bad experiences with Paypal as well. I paid a friend a commission to sell a bunch of old gear for me last winter. By the time it had sold in April we were in full lockdown. He tried to paypal me just north of $10k. Luckily I didn't accept it before reading the fine print. Paypal was unwilling to dole out more than $1,000 per month. It would have taken almost a year for my money to trickle in. I cancelled the transaction and had him mail me a check.
There is no love lost for paypal. I do wonder about OP's situation though because OP was the one who threw the wrench in. the works Everyone had agreed to the terms. The buyer sent him money for the goods. Then OP decided he wanted to back out. The buyer got stiffed. There is no reason Paypal should have to shuffle money around from bank to bank for free if the seller isn't even committed to sending the product he listed for sale in the first place. That's OP's issue, not Paypal's.
There is no love lost for paypal. I do wonder about OP's situation though because OP was the one who threw the wrench in. the works Everyone had agreed to the terms. The buyer sent him money for the goods. Then OP decided he wanted to back out. The buyer got stiffed. There is no reason Paypal should have to shuffle money around from bank to bank for free if the seller isn't even committed to sending the product he listed for sale in the first place. That's OP's issue, not Paypal's.