care about silky yet detailed mids and highs, soundstage, 3d etc. I just want to avoid really forward sound signatures.I think the Pulsar (1 or 2) is an outstanding choice given this criteria. ProAc, Usher, and Vandersteen would be some others well worth exploring. BTW, it’d be helpful to know what electronics you’re using.
As for room placement, if 3D soundstage is something you value then without a doubt put the speakers in front of the windows (obviously you’ll need some kind of curtain or something to curtail reflectivity off the glass). And give the speakers at least three feet (or preferably more) behind them to give the soundstage a better sense of depth and space. Toeing the speakers in a bit and some strategically-placed wall hangings will help minimize sidewall placement issues. Anyway, hope this helps, and best of luck in your search.