Mistakes I’ve made

@milpai 

yes it was! 

*s* Observation & imho of all the above...

Don’t ’loan’ Anything out to Anyone with the expectation of return in the future.
If returned at all, if the item is anywhere close to the condition it left your hands, consider it an reason to consider oneself incredibly blessed beyond rational thought.

Here’s a concept one might consider:
Ask the ’lendee’ to provide an item of a relatively similar ’value’ to you (the ’lender’) to guarantee the treatment of your item.

If item returns trashed, feel free to sledgehammer the ’ransom’ in front of ’lendee’.

Yes, it is an extreme concept to consider. But recall the ’ye olde saw’ you’ve heard before:

"Neither a borrower nor a lender be."

The ’flip side’ of the laments expressed above?

"Hell is other humans." ;)

Hopefully Happy New Year, J

I loaned my CD of Pearl Jam “Ten” to my best friend the day after I bought it.  After almost a year I asked for it back since I only played it once before he got it.  I had to ask quite a few times for it and I finally got it back, scratched.  My friend was angry for my asking for it back and didn’t talk to me for a long time.  I guess he really thought it was his. 

I borrowed the Ten Years After LP, "A Space In Time" from an acquaintance around 1977.  Saw him at a get together in 2016. 
Then we were all to meet for dinner in 2018 so I brought the LP with me and returned it.  We all got a kick out of it.  It was an early pressing and the sound quality of the LP was exquisite.  
Better late than never.

After a 41 year loan, I hope you paid for dinner!