Don't see Miller replying to this one:
'Dimwit, your speakers are way too sensitive, concentrate on getting speakers with less than 87dB efficiency'. :-))
Crazy to ask AR to modify the piece. They would need to work out what to do and charge you $000s. And the amp would be unresellable after.
In any case, the big matching problem is not with the Ref 6.
You need to change the power amp or the speakers.
Changing the Ref 6 for a pre-amp that's flat with no gain will only partially solve the problem. Losing 12dB of gain will mean your volume tops out at position #(7 + 12/0.3), as each step is about 0.3db. That's #47 which is still less than halfway up to #103.
Having said that, I run a Ref 6 too. With Krell Reference 200s upgraded to 400w per side and Martin Logan CLX Anniversary specced at 90dB sensitivity but probably a bit less, the volume is certainly very full on at around #40-45 and I get enough differentiation from those 40 steps.
It wasn't so long ago when I upgraded to Ref 6 and vdH The Grail SB.
I calculated the system gain very carefully before diving in. I recommend others do the same.