I'm wondering if you are being over cautious regarding the volume. A little louder could be acceptable depending on the construction material used between you and your neighbor.
I'm in a similar situation (13x40ft) and I've found a good test is to check the volume at the distant end of the room.
I'm in a similar situation (13x40ft) and I've found a good test is to check the volume at the distant end of the room.