I think it was still the Wreck of the Hesperus, through the early 80s. I confess “refreshing “ is not an adjective I would have applied to New Wave during its time…
I’ve become open to agreeing that I did miss out, but like the friends you mention, as far as new music went I was either into continuing to favor the few 60s and 70s bands that survived or fusion. One of “those” guys I suppose.