Returning damaged item to seller....

So you spent nothing, have been payed back in full and you have the shippers property and he is out of pocket for both shipping fee and the item.

So just what high ground are you on again? What is the lesson you want to teach him.

Whatever you think it is or whatever your reasoning now... it doesn' t really fly alongside the virtuous mud being applied here. I'm betting the cost to send it would be negligible to pay it in full. 

Your withholding his property   unpaid for by you for the sake of a few bucks (his half ?) and some idiotic moral dilemma... its literally a few bucks out of your pocket..compared to his loss...regardless of how anything is packed the delivery "experts" will always find a way to damage things.

My conscience would be clear when he had his property back . 

but I'd never post this type of stuff on a forum about a private sale. Personal escalation in mass  never works, feedback after private discussion is usually sufficient and less likely to have one of two ignored afterward.

That's just how I see it...

Apparently....

has2be: 

Thank-you for your response. I do have a clear conscience and nor do I believe I am trying to teach the seller a lesson. Throughout all this the seller did not want the item back. The seller also refused refund as I failed to notify of damage when received due to being away from home. When I returned homed saw the damage the seller was immediately notified with pictures of the damage. The seller than accused me a causing the damage. Only after I filed a claim did he initiate the refund again telling me he did not want it back. I offered to return home, 350 miles or 563.2 kilometers one way, to return the item but the seller said it would be a waste of time and money. Weeks after I made this offer the seller decides he wants it back which I am more than happy to do if he pays for 1/2 the shipping. I think my offer to pay 1/2 shipping is fair and will do so if the seller contacts me agreeing to pay 1/2 shipping.

So he should be out more costs to justify your stance. But your the only one out here so your 1/2 offer justify’s that cause your the good guy.

Interesting, now we find it was delivered..you were away then you saw it was damaged.

Wasn’t it evident on the package it was damaged.

People always see these things in the bias that effects them. My thinking, the need to amass others to be sidled along that bias either way publicly , completely erodes its veracity.

What is the point other than ones own vanity.

The decision is made, the facts are one sided from a biased faucet and its an after the fact incident that is not a general alarm to an on going scam to require a forum to solve or fix anything. Its kind of like housewives gossip .... it never does anything of use. Irony...most that side with you, yourself included would be suspect or pissed at the after the delivery damage and I was away so couldn’t report thing if roles were reversed . Thats reality..often a contention brought up...

It has cost you nada, yet your the one publicly complaining displaying it wrapped in virtuous mud . Feel lucky many aren’t and bare the costs and they don’t gaggle publicly even when they would be certainly more justified. Solves nothing as the reason its posted is never as stated or to help anyone or anything. As far as clear conscience goes,....then why is it still an issue to bring up?

I agree with has2be,

Send back the item at your expense and let it be. You have stuck his face in the mud long enough.

ozzy

has2be,ozzy:

I was looking for input having never, after 100's of purchases had an issue with damaged goods. I am thankful for all the input on both sides.

I can see now why the seller wants me to foot the return shipping costs. Below estimates are just for the base (weight/dimensions) with no packaging.

FedEx:  $78.50 international ground 

UPS:  $73.14 standard 

USPS:  133.19 priority mail international

His shipping costs that I paid and was reimbursed was $40, this should indicate how well it was not packaged.

I am still willing to pay 1/2 shipping costs.