It's Great Having So Many Choices (?)


A long time ago, someone said to me that having choices causes stress. If the doctor tells you that you need a procedure right now or you’re going to die (or worse) there is less stress because there is no choice. But if the doctor tells you that you "really should go check this out because maybe ...." You start stressing out over whether to do it. I bring this up because of something that happened to me recently. I was selling a pair of speakers locally and this very nice guy (as all audiophiles are of course) comes over to listen for a few hours. He really likes my system and he’s very impressed with my dac. He leaves without buying, but the next day he calls and picks up the speakers. Smart guy - don’t impulse buy. So when he comes over, we start talking about DACs and he is in the market for a new one. I said that he really liked my DAC, he could afford it, he listened for hours and why don’t you just buy the same one? Mine is not for sale, so I had no sinister motives. So he starts rattling off all these names, Denafrips, RME and a bunch of others and I told him I just didn’t know. But I could see the stress and frustration in his demeanor and I was thinking about it.

Why wouldn’t someone just buy something they listened to in person for hours, with the exact speakers you just bought and know with certainty that you liked? And you can afford it, so $$ is not the issue. It made me remember what my friend told me about how choices cause stress. And now, with so many products available on the internet, the audiophile is faced with so many options that it has become much more difficult and stressful to make a buying decision.

So are more choices good? Of course. How could any rational person say that more choices aren’t better. That’s stupidity. But unfortunately, the human brain reacts in strange ways. Truly, man is the only animal on earth that can be given everything they want and still not be happy. Perhaps that’s why civilization has progressed to where it has, at least technologically. If we were satisfied with what we had, we’d all be sitting around in the dark. Maybe not the worst thing.

chayro

@SNS - you make some good points.  And as far as truth goes, nobody wants to hear the truth.  Whenever somebody starts a sentence with "To tell you the truth...", good news is NEVER coming.  Nobody says" To tell you the truth, you just won the lottery".  An overstatement, of course, but extreme examples sometimes illustrate the point more vividly. 

The illusion of freedom is mesmerizing.  All those choices that can be researched, sampled, rejected and categorized.  And then you can make a decision.  You can purchase the best toothpaste for you.

57 channels and nothings on

My last speakers were sold off Craig's List locally. Because I knew any normal person comes and hears them, they are gonna sound so much better than anything they ever heard before, they are gonna snap em up. Whereas any audiophile is gonna hem and haw and critically second-guess himself to inaction. 

I don't know how you read these forums over any length of time and not get the message there is a definite culture of, not quite neurosis but worry, tinged with elitism. The worry part is buyers remorse, which stems mostly from the elitism part, the fear of the audiophile elite not cheering your choice. 

This is everywhere by the way, not just here. Why do you think everyone buys a Rolex when clearly Grand Seiko are a cut above and cost less to boot? Because they know everyone but everyone will admire their Rolex, while statistically nobody even knows the words Grand Seiko. In audio however there is no one standout brand to gain universal approval. Thus the stress.

Truly, man is the only animal on earth that can be given everything they want and still not be happy. 

So true. I forget the exact quote and the philosopher who said it but basically if we lived in a utopia with wine and women our every whim provided, fairies pouring pabulum down our throats 24/7 someone would have to smash it to smithereens just to have something interesting to do for a change.

Less is more.  I don’t like too many choices.  My simple brain kind of gets stuck.

Having said this, I do have way too many of certain things in my life, which does cause me some stress.