I don't know anything about your sub but I'd still try to set the crossover low like you have been. I really enjoyed one REL Britannia B1 sub set deep in a corner away from both speakers but crossed at 30Hz or so.
My main speakers go way low (not high passed yet) but B1 sub made the bottom two octaves fill in for a solid foundation that was very enjoyable from my singular listening position. I even achieved a +- 2dB from 31-200hz in the 'seat'. It was smooth and deep.
I've since moved to three sealed SVS subs for a distributed bass array and need to get one more sometime soon so as to have four total. (I still have to explain what the two old RELs and single DefTech subs are for... (TV and home theater rooms, 2).
I'd try in between the mains. I did that twenty years ago and it worked well in another home. Good luck!