"What is it that I’m failing to grasp, here? " I don’t think you are failing to grasp anything. As a corollary to your point, no one can say that live music is always perfectly presented. Many of the same problems with acoustics, etc. exist in a live performance and no one even mentions the sound engineers that are typically present on live performances. In my experience there are several sound engineers that have accompanied top flight live performances that I have attended that had tin ears or no ears at all. We eventually will reach a saturation point with anything and emulating our personal playback systems to sound like a live performance misses the point anyway, I think -i.e. live performances are simply not always great and if you reach that point with your home system so it sounds like a live performance, sometimes it’s not going to sound good. Yes, certain, but not all, recordings are going to sound good but that is likely true on almost any system. If you consistently enjoy listening to your system, that, I think is the finish line at least until some new system improvement takes hold of you that you simply can no longer live without.