"Are there speakers that disappear regardless of the recording?"
No, I don't think so. The sense of space and the stereo stage is a function of the original recording. Others have mentioned the old RCA and Mercury recordings as examples of recordings that capture that space. Those were made during an age where recording engineers let the conductor and the musicians take care of the balance. The engineers spent a lot more time finding the optimal location for 2 or 3 microphones. Some more recent recordings by Keith Johnson, the folks at Telarc, Chandos and Chesky achieve similar results with more modern equipment, but adhering to the minimalist approach to miking the orchestra. As soon as you start adding more mics, things have the potential to go downhill fast. Decca in England had some interesting techniques that involved additional mics and were successful in capturing the space, but it was done very carefully.