How can I tell if I am overdriving the amp or the speakers?

start sounding sharp and annoying. 

That is your first warning. But you really should not be playing that loud. I always reduce the volume until I am at a still satisfying loudness and not overdriving the room, the equipment, or my ears. If you are running out of steam...you have to pay to play but 250 watts should really be able to do the job...however 500 wpc will do more. 

Please tell us your front end components and cabling on the front end. Also, give us an idea of speaker and listening positioning. Toe in etc… Thank you.

"The amp is 250 x 2 into 8 ohms," and the speakers are rated at 90?

I wouldn't think it would be the amp running out of power.  I would think the speakers are just trying to work to hard.  But I also think that the room acoustics suggestion has merit.  Back in the late '90s & early '00s, I was in the mode to be pretty much be playing my stuff to loud all the time (& the stuff I was using wasn't cheap stuff, either). I would be jamming out to ear bleed levels in the living room & thinking that I was at the cusp of clipping, but when I'd go out on the back porch to barbecue or whatever, everything sounded sweet & clear with no distortion.  

I don't think you are "overdriving" anything. I think you mean pushing the speakers or amp to where they start distorting.  It would get really, really loud before that happened.  some songs are recorded with too much treble/upper midrange and come across harsh on an accurate system so make sure you aren't testing with the same song every time.  Some amps are harsh.  I have a friend with the same amp hooked up to some Raidhos and he plays it very loud with no harshness.  His system sounds better than mine.   I suspect the speakers are a bit harsh.  I have a tube amp and had to swap out a few tubes to eliminate harshness but you can't do that.   --Jerry

@spatialking ,

Lets see, no warning light. No blown fuses, oh and I have AQ, 8’ Rocket 88 speaker wire.

JD