I understand what you're saying. You went to a reputable company, not some guy. Some guy convinced me that he could build a wonderful amplifier for me and that I could see him anytime if I have issues. In essence I paid for the same things you paid for. But the difference between you and I is the reputation and quality.
In hindsight, I was lured by the prospect of finally experiencing tubes. My experience couldn't be worse and it's hilarious. I notice that my OGY speakers have more bass and fuller midrange with tubes compared to the Yamaha RN402 I regrettably sold. From memory, the differences are subtle but still there. It's like 20% better with tubes (listening to busy tracks where the hum disappears), and that's a huge improvement in audiophile terms. But the quality of the recording and my mood play a bigger part (IMHO).
Perhaps if I use the powered sub, the quality of the amplifier should matter less.
I researched low damping factor amplifiers briefly. It looks like today's transistor amplifiers are built for high damping factor by default. Low damping factor amplifiers are most commonly tubes. A high damping factor doesn't allow a woofer cone to vibrate much. So you get harder upper midrange and less bass with fullrange drivers. That's all theoretical and I'm probably out to lunch on the understanding.