Interesting comments here. I ran into the same problem when my wife hired a designer to advise us on our ongoing renovation project. Her first thoughts were to get rid of my hifi system!!!! Then said we didn’t need the 65” tv, next was the dogs crates, she said they could be locked up in the bedroom or outside. Then she went on to the furniture. Our recently purchased stressless sofa and chairs had to go. I was flabbergasted. Then she left and came back with her builder to give us a quote for the construction work. The contractor couldn’t speak much English told us 25k and 3 weeks to do it all. With cash payment “up front”.
Needless to say fired right away. The designer had the gall to send us a substantial bill, which we did not pay…
I understand the op problems. My recommendation is to get into the house. Find something the wife agrees to live with. Not expensive, then look for a solution to the audio needs/wants. The Kef speakers are a great initial idea.
One final thought, if you now live on a golf course. Make sure you have protection for your windows. My father in law had hurricane shutters installed over his windows after getting hit a bazillion times. Sliding glass doors are a pain to have fixed. Enjoy your new house, welcome to Florida. It’s a great state to live in.