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you may want to check out the Raven Corvus Monitors, beautifully done and terrific sound at every type of music, clear voicing, great detail, never fatiguing

Have you checked out PBN. There line has a huge spectrum. 

@wast314

your add’l info is quite helpful... always good to see folks coming here for advice provide ample useful input so we can be more informed to try to help you properly

a few additional thoughts -

1. life is short, if wilson sabrina x’s are it for you, you should go for it... why have regrets?

2. not sure how much of your speaker choice is driven by visuals, cosmetics and/or speaker set up constraints, or is it pretty much all about the sound? if the latter, please do not underestimate magnepans, while they look how they do, and demand to be out into the room they play in, they are absolutely superb when done right and provide a magical balance of live presence without attendant treble harshness

3. seems like you are bascailly quite sensitive to modern sizzly treble but still want the visceral impact of a live performance in the rest of the range, along with tonal correctness at good volumes - given this, i do agree with your notion of getting electronics that have tone controls, or the modern version of such, being digital signal processing/equalization - this will allow you to use speakers that are more alive sounding, but shelve down the treble

You should take a look at the Tekton Double Impact SE speakers with Beryllium tweeters... they blow away many speakers at twice their price.  Reviews below of the standard DI but the SE version with the Beryllium tweeter is even more impressive. 

Double Impact SE - Tekton Design

$3k speaker better than $30k speaker? Tekton Double Impact impression - Bing video

The Best Speaker Award - Tekton Double Impact Speaker Review ! - Bing video

OP be patience , at times it takes lots of speaker Audition to really choose the right one for you and your wife.You also need to be open minded on your selections? If looks is important to you, there are many musical speakers that will suite your preference, but not your eyes .I have collections of Speakers the ugly one are the one that really suite my sound preference, the nice looking one are for my eyes and  a bit for my ears Iam also 65 yrs old like you. I’ve been in this hobby for at least 30 now. If you like Wilson speakers. Albertportis is a  Agon member , who has lots of Wilson inventories. PM him. He is from Chicago.