Did you ever buy too much bass?

Many times setup is half the battle ,go to Cardas cables they have a classic speaker setup, and if speakers have too much bass ,if ported plug the port with foam or pull away from front wall boundaries. ,that removes Bass reinforcement.

With subs the better JL audio with built in DSP - mikes is very good 

my brother has 2 fathom 12s  very nice subs 

I have the Svs 4000s and with the app and DSP Mike adjust to the room nicely 

a good tuned sub should disappear in the room ,

land to others Bass becomes directional when above 80 hz .

depending on the order of the speakers roll off normally under 10 db above the lowest bass of the main speaker , having 2 subs always better then 1 if of = quality to eliminate Bass nulls in the Room , and room the subs around if you-have the room ,wireless bass IHave not tried ,but others say it works ok.

You can't buy too much subwoofer, unless you get to the point that something physically does not fit into the space you have. You can turn down a large sub and make several types of adjustments depending on your system to make it transparent, but you can never turn up a sub that is too small and underpowered. My advice is always to buy the best and largest sub that you can afford, and then be happy for a very long time. There is no such thing as "pairing" or matching, or other old wives tales applicable here, it's about the bass. So many myths and half-truths out there about subs. A sub can both supplement and support the low end of almost any system out there, no matter how 'high end" or basic the system may be. I've had the pleasure of owning a large variety of subs since about 1986 with various systems. Everything from custom-built cabinets with separate amps, to multiple subs in my main room currently. Some that have been celebrated and some that get a lot of questionable reviews. Not once have I ever said the sub doesn't belong or that I spent too much money.  Always read the specs and performance details, as that is all that mostly matters. In-house demo would be great but is impractical or impossible for many people. The typical showroom is nothing like your house, so the specs tell you most of what you need to know, and after that it will be placement and adjustments for your space. You are not listening to a sub for the most part, and the adjustments and ability to blend into the system are what matters, which can be done with all of them. Just follow the advice to buy a highly rated, highly powered, and suitably large unit, or multiples. 

I've been using a sub woofer in my 2 channel stereo rig since the late ninities Most of my friends back then had  never heard of using a sub in a home stereo system I currently have tower speakers with built in powered subs and two SVS Ultra 13 subs with the upgraded plate amps  The subs can be controlled with the SVS app and can be tweeked from my listening position  I typically have the crossover and sub volume set on the low side and the dynamics and impact is amazing! The subs just disappear! I've used Dirac to dial everything into my room  Has anyone used the Anti mode 8033 automatic sub woofer equalizer? I've heard it works very good for sub woofer integration for little cost

Over powered rooms with booming muddy midbass is quite common. IMHO, a subwoofer is best when used literally as intended....to augment the lower octave(s) and pickup where the main woofer’s output is weak  A sub sounds best to me when it’s not featured. I set the low pass sub filter at it’s lowest setting, and set the gain so that it’s barely noticeable except on bass heavy passages. The sub shouldn’t be active when there’s no signal in the bottom octave or two.