Thanks again to everyone for your contributions. For the benefit of others in similar situation I wanted to share my shortlist - it has changed from my initial position thanks to all the advice and suggestions, and shows the value of this forum.
In deciding the shortlist i wanted to stay true to the three principles (a) simplicity (b) staying close to budget and (c) visual appeal (not bling, as some may have interpreted).
Despite very tempting restored vintage options (quality, VFM, nostalgia, romance etc), I decided to go with contemporary. I think there are excellent options in the new/used current models market, albeit at a premium, with set it and forget it possibility. I don't to tweak and experiment, i just want to enjoy music on a reasonably great setup.
For now here are the final four in no particular order, i will try to audition what i can:
1. Rega P10 (i was really against it in the beginning) $6400
2. Dr Feikert Volare with Origin Live arm - $4000, allowing for a $2K+ cartridge
3. Thorens TD 1601 - $4000, available for less on preowned market. Leaves a lot of room for a very good cartridge, and i like the semi automatic function
4. Acoustic Solid Black Wood MPX - $5000, high mass classic design
The options I cannot currently reach owing to budget limitations (but would otherwise be my top choices)
1. VPI HW 40 DD
2. STST Motus II DQ (direct drive with semiautomatic feature)
3. Technics SP10
4. SME
Any thoughts on this welcome. Thanks all