Sad to see how this thread deteriorated from the OP's premise. Music means so much to so many, It warms my heart to hear that REM made a connection to you that helped you through hard times. That is what the best of music is about. Be your own man and ignore the flamers who are bashing the band that was important to you. Ignore the crap responses telling you what to listen to. Instead keep listening to what connects to you, who cares about what others thought was important when prop planes ruled the skies and hi-fi was recorded on 8 track mixers???? Back to your question, IMO, REM was the real deal. My opinion matters not, but when you're listening to music how it makes you feel is everything.
Cheers and best wishes