further to $ 2000. bookshelf speakers

I had the opportunity to listen to Totem series 1 signature speakers at a friends house. Same size room as mine approx. 12X 20 feet. To me they were very bright and lively.The highs were very crisp and pronounced. The bass was punchy and point source. Unfortunately they are not for me.I'll try to explain, I could clearly hear the drumsticks strike the Cymbal more so than the cymbal. The bass sounded to be on its own rather than part of the Band. The music was Miles Davis and Coltrane. In my quest for mellow and rich sound these did not do it. I am leaning towards Harbeth p3 ESR based on comments here from replies to my earlier post. The question is, will the Harbeth sound more mellow and less bright and fill the room more than the Totems? Your answers will be very much appreciated.I am trying to find a Harbeth listening location here in Canada Toronto area.
Regards Peter