IMHO and years of investing, listening etc as mentioned by the OP. I think that speakers are the final destination of delivery to our ears for every dollar spent to achieve that utopia we all seek. But I think also we must agree that the speaker is the single most affected or influenced by the environment of the room in which they are placed. Room dimensions, furniture, occupancy of the room, wall hangings, open or closed door and the list goes on and on. All these with even the most minute of change are factors in what we hear. I too have heard speakers that alone double my investment in my whole system, and walked away thinking ‘what am I not getting’ for that kind of money. And others times I hear speakers that I would think of as small room system speakers and thought ‘why in the heck did I spend what I spent’ . So we have to eventually, well me anyway, just say this is my system and I will make the best of it and put on your favorite record and relax and enjoy the music and relive the pleasure it has brought you through the years.
Again my opinion and mental island of refuge for sanity’s sake