I refuse to use Paypal as a whole now its just not safe anymore for the seller, waiting for your money, issues with returns, returns not what you sent them, fee's etc. I've come to the point i wont ship until the money is in my bank account. on more costly items anyway.
I also always pay for shipping when a buyer and demand shipping insurance ( that I pay for) even though it only covers loss its cheep enough that on higher priced items its worth it. Insurance also makes the shipment require a signature so no dropping on your door step, to be stolen. I also find with insurance the packages seem to arrive in better condition, and with out hidden fees.