I agree with many others, forgoing used is silly especially with the lead time issues some manufacturers are still faced with. You simply have to feel out the seller and let your spidey sense be your guide. I'm batting 1.000 with my 3 purchases, of which 1 was a high-dollar-never-saw-them-in-person transaction. I honestly wasn't worried in the least after talking to the seller and (admittedly) stalking him a bit once I had a name.
Unrelated - someone brought up "pet free" what exactly are people afraid of with pets? Is it cats and speaker grilles in particular?