I disagree with some.
1. Bass is the bigger power user from your amp. I would plan on 200W unless subs are very efficient. Powered subs.are fine.
Splitting the signal is fine. I don't run full range through my mains. IM distortion is in mains when you use them with out a sub. Making your mains sound better with better bass is the goal.
I have an external crossover. I adjust gain. Crossover set at 100. A good crossover is $600 on up. I have Marchand and I just read about another one, can't remember the name.
Two subs are better than one. Mine are streo but can be summed to mono. Multiple ones are easier to integrate. I feel my subs and mains become invisible.
Isolate your subs from the floor. I used springs but there are many options.