I understand your pain. I like planar speakers - but they are not for everyone, as I think soix was saying. Try auditioning something else.
As for the long term, it seems to me that you have three obvious alternatives: headphones, room treatment, or DIY.:I went DIY because I couldn't afford what I liked. After 20 years, I've got a heck of a fine system, and had a heck of a lot more fun building it, mostly from over the counter parts.
YMMV