Help with high end bookshelf speakers

he said it's not hifi. Confidence is key.

OP, relegated to the third bedroom, grow a pair! Unless your wife is the major breadwinner, you have a say in this! Don’t be meek, don’t be pushed, or bullied around. Put it where you want it; at least a realistic space in your home. A three bedroom House? Come on.

Whatever speakers you pursue, I recommend for a room that size that they be sealed/acoustic suspension. Speakers with that design interact less with one's (small) room, can be placed closer to the back wall if needed, and can be paired with a sub (or subs) more easily because their output drops off sharply below the -3 dB point. I speak from experience using bookshelf speakers in a 13' x 13' home office.

Got the H590 with M30.1 and M40.2 - definitely Harbeth!!!

REFERENCE 3a REFLECTOR Monitors

https://www.enjoythemusic.com/superioraudio/equipment/0817/Reference_3A_Reflector_Monitor_Review.htm

“ ….. Don’t bother skipping to the conclusion of this review, as I’ll tell you right now: The Reference 3A Reflector is a great speaker. If one has been searching for a stand-mounted speaker anywhere near its asking price of $12,000, these are the speakers to get.
Not only do they do everything that one would expect of for a speaker of its size and price, but much, much more. They commit no errors of omission I can think of, other than missing the deepest bass, nor do they commit any errors of commission that I’ve become aware of during its audition period…”