I can see what you're saying...
Here's a breakdown of "the drapery falls" by a classical guy (that you may appreciate).
Personally, i myself am a violin player...who went plugged in for a few years because a couple of my buddies back in the days had a metal band. It is harder to insert oneself as a violin player into that scene, but, i tried for a few years. In my head though, i have a similar thought process to the gentleman in this video when i am breaking down tracks i run into.
Track breakdown
https://youtu.be/Iujfijfnej4?si=YFDkhkXWAEisLNrj
Track
Opeth - The Drapery Falls
https://youtu.be/YeTNkPXRrVY?si=QJeQPGIQ1kDs8ptH
Those attributes I love in music are (no particular order): very high levels of musicianship, complexity, deep and broad range of emotional and/or content conveyed, (usually) long form song structure, no need to have "catchy" melodies, no need for verse>chorus>bridge song structure.
For me, the above attributes supersede any specific genre. Once the above attributes are met, I am almost genre "agnostic".
The metal bands I like have most or all of the above attributes.
Progressive metal - Haken, Pain of Salvation, Riverside, Wolverine, Opeth, Caligula's Horse, Lemur Voice, Suncaged, and others.