Your ML electrostats are one of the best options for low level listening. I have 2 suggestions for you:
1. Change amps to perhaps a tube amp or a first watt, an amp designed to sound good at less than one watt, which is where you are listening.
2. Get hearing aids that have a hifi music setting. costco sells the PHillips which are a good choice. the hifi music setting gets rid of any programming designed to help you undersand your spouses voice and simply flattens out the frequency spectrum. your current hearing is lacking in highs and probably some gaps in the mids which makes music sound lifeless. the hearing aids will put life back into the music. You’ll want to turn off the hifi music setting for other activities. for example, a restaurant sounds obnoxiously noisy.
Jerry
PS Don't sell your Qutest right away. It is a very good dac and you may find your upgrade isn't an upgrade.